You can explain the whole thing.
And it's still running you.

Which of these is yours

You'll recognise at least two.

You've done the work. That's the problem.

Most men who come to this have tried more than the people advising them. Therapy. Breathwork. Plant medicine. Meditation. Books, podcasts, courses, the gym, the discipline, the 5am.

Some of it helped. None of it held.

And somewhere in there you started to wonder whether the problem was you specifically.

Here's why it didn't hold.

Insight lives in your head. The pattern lives in your body.

You can understand it completely, explain it to a room, name the parent and the age and the mechanism, and your nervous system will keep running the identical program. Understanding was never the thing that changes it.

There is an order to this work, and almost nobody follows it.

Even the deepest modalities tend to give you rung three without rungs one and two, so you understand everything and change nothing. Discipline culture gives you rung five without any of the rest, so you white-knuckle a life you can't feel.

This is the Ladder of Liberation. On the night, we start at the bottom.

BeforeAfter

I know, because I lived it

For years my life looked like the textbook definition of success. Results, a growing business, awards, stages. Behind it I was living in a constant state of survival, filling my calendar to the brim to avoid the silence of stillness, and coping with substances and overwork to outrun the feeling that I was fundamentally never good enough.

The root of it was unprocessed grief and trauma. Growing up in a tense environment, and later navigating a family member's attempted suicide, I learned to suppress my emotions and rely on extreme hyper-independence to stay safe.

I spent over eight years in talk therapy. I meditated, read the books, listened to the podcasts. I gained genuine intellectual awareness of every pattern, and the biological pattern in my body remained completely untouched.

Everything changed when I stopped trying to out-think it and started doing the somatic and shadow work. I cleared the trapped emotional charge out of my body, and the pressure behind everything finally stopped.

What actually happens in the room

I ask everyone for a number.

Nought to ten, how much tension are you holding in your body right now. Once before we start, and again about twenty-five minutes later.

Average drop across everyone who's given both numbers: 3 points.

Across three workshops, not one score has gone up.

I didn't do that to them. I talked. Their bodies did it, because they were finally given somewhere to put something they'd been holding for years.

"After that last thirty minutes I could definitely feel the shift in my mood, and just a more relaxed state. Chest and gut mostly. At work I hold a lot of tension in my lower back, and it all just melted away."

MattWent 4 to 1 on the night

From men who went further

"I've invested in a lot of programs. Even Tony Robbins, Mindvalley. Maybe over $60,000 in the last three years. But I haven't experienced something personally like what we did together. Each day I'm doing these practices and I can feel it in my body rather than words. Even though the external circumstances haven't changed yet, I trust myself again after a long, long time. Just within five weeks."

Gayan Danushka, 44Support worker

"You've helped me pave the way through my own head. I've got more confidence now. I haven't been comparing myself anymore, whereas in the past I'd get stuck in cycles of comparison."

Eran, 25Sales leader

"With counselling or therapy, you're running out of time. You feel like sometimes you're not heard to the degree that you want to be heard. This was different. I just had to show up as I am."

Normaan, 25Corporate professional

"Within a month, I noticed myself and even my team being happier. I put out my best revenue for the month in my 2.5 years of running the business. I'm a different boss and I'm a different mate."

Nick, 27Business owner

What it actually is

Ninety minutes. Free. Online. Cameras off is completely fine and most people keep them off.

You will not be asked to share anything personal at any point. Nobody gets put on the spot. There's a chat, everything in it is optional, and it's never more than a word or a number.

Roughly a third of it is done with your eyes closed, doing a practice, rather than listening to me describe one. You keep that practice afterwards whether or not you ever speak to me again.

It's educational, not therapy. If you're in acute crisis this week, recently bereaved, or currently in trauma treatment, this isn't the right week for it.

Thursday 5 November, 7:00pm.

Ninety minutes, free, and you'll leave with your own number and a practice that's yours to keep.

Add it to your calendar